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Discipline (Part #1)

2/12/2015

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Janae Jackman
2/18/2015 04:44:51 am

This quote from class sadly describes my way of parenting exactly: "We have this erroneous concept that we got from our parents that in order to make our children behave better we need to make them feel worse so they will feel remorse, repent from that, and never do it again."
I have tried to change and realize that they can learn and change without having to make them feel horrible. If I show them more love and teach them through discipline, rather then punish them, I see that they have even more the desire to be better.
I have tried very hard this week to not get into the power struggles and not "make them feel worse." And I love it when the battle ends before it really starts because I am not giving my child more ammo to came back at me with. I stay calm so they have no one to fight, and they give up. It just makes me smile every time it works.

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Liz Colton
2/18/2015 04:45:35 am

This week has been interesting. I decided to look at each of my children and where they fit in on the discipline scale we talked about it class. Most of my kiddos are just looking for attention but I have one son who does all 4 things when he is mad! My husband and I have spent that last few weeks praying for him each day. We are focusing on being consistent and on the same page when it comes to parenting him and for us, it has been a pretty easy week. For our son, the week has been pretty bad! He has not been able to start any arguments, when he yells and screams, we just politely tell him we will talk to him when he can talk in a normal voice and walk away. It hasn't been easy (I have spent more than a few minutes in my closet calming down) but I do feel we are parenting him better.
I also checked out a bunch of the Positive Parenting books from the library and I have been reading them and sharing interesting insights with my husband. I am grateful for the positive things this class is helping to teach me!

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Rachel
2/18/2015 06:40:03 am

I really enjoyed this lesson this week. Reflecting on my parenting has been good for me. I've looked at each of my kids and tried to see if they are in one of the levels of discouragement. I am more aware of when they are. I looked at my ponder pad today from class and I have brainstormed ways I can help a certain child who has his emotional bank account drained. He is in the red and I have been trying to fill it. I have noticed over the past several weeks, since starting this semester, as I have spend more time one on one with him his behavior and attitude is changing. Since I have worked on getting the basics- more fervent prayers, daily scripture study and more purposeful fhe, I have been strengthened to be able to deal with his horrible behavior when it does get out of hand. I have noticed I have more patience. He notices it too. I am really trying to be the best mom for each of my kids and I am so grateful for this class which teaches us gospel principles and how to apply them to help strengthen ourselves and our family. I am trying to look for ways I can make each kid my favorite. That really stuck with me from last week and I hope I can make that happen so each one of my kids one day down the road will say "I'm moms favorite".

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Tamara
2/18/2015 12:24:43 pm

It is sometimes so hard to look at yourself while parenting! I've been trying to watch my volume and move the action line down like she talked about in class. I'm excited for the next lesson!

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Melissa rowe
2/18/2015 02:30:36 pm

I tried hard to stay at level zero this week and to act right away while my I'm calm with my children. It wasn't easy and the kids were worse at first. After a couple days however I started noticing a huge change in their attitude and behavior. We were doing so good and then it came time to do Saturday jobs. I tried to make it really fun by turning it into a service scavengire hunt, but they did not want to work. The whining and complaining got really bad and I couldn't get anyone to do anything. They started arguing and I started to loose my patience. I yelled and got upset. Immediately I noticed my boys feeling even more discouraged. I took a time out and regrouped then went out happy and tried to build them up with as many positives and encouraging words as I could. I encouraged them to stick with it and we finally finished our work. I feel like every time I mess up and yell or get upset it makes their behavior 10xs worse. They start yelling and fighting more. And I have to start all over again. I'm excited to learn more tomorrow! I need more tools!

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