What did you think?
Class member: Last night I had my older girls take the test…8, 10, 12. I knew what my oldest and younger one was. When we were done the oldest one said she was a yellow/red tie. My younger one is the brightest yellow you have ever met. She does cartwheels on her way to go everywhere. She said she was a white/yellow. My oldest one then said I’m not yellow. My middle one is white. I was proud of my younger one because she said we need to write down all our weaknesses and strengths. We need to focus on our weaknesses and make them strengths.
Class member: I took the challenge to have my husband take the test for me. I did kind of feel mad after. I have always thought I was yellow/blue mix. My husband pegged me as more red. I thought that was more interesting. People might not always know our reasons for doing things. He is blue/white. It was interesting to see how he sees me as more dominant and more power.
That doesn’t surprise me. You are the one that is usually disciplining children. You come across as very strong. Your intentions may be different.
Class member: We actually didn’t do the test yet. I was looking at my kids. My son was very, very blue until his 8th grade year and now he is so white. I’m interested to see what he says on the test.
I have a son like that who was amazing, but then quit caring about grades. He got his Eagle the night before he was 18. He has created and run his own business. The drive came back, but he has to want it.
Class member: Don’t you think if you are that blue you don’t want people telling you what to do. If you feel like people are telling you what to do maybe he is pulling back.
You have to find a hot button to kick-start that drive.
Class member: I have a question about whites. My son is 26, but for white it says they need help expressing their feelings and needs. Would you make that a daily or weekly thing? At some point the whites keep it all in.
With whites you cannot demand anything. You have to be very kind. The white is the easiest to break. They are more fragile. They keep all their feelings and emotions in. They have them very strong. They keep their feelings inside until they feel like it’s very safe. They will never be the ones that come to you. You make it safe for a white by asking questions and not giving lectures at the same time. When you ask a question and they get the courage to give you the answer don’t tell them they are wrong. Teaching with a white is always more effective if you do it through questions where the answer is what you would lecture them. If you come down hard on a white you will break them. They will say I don’t care and quit.
Class member: There were parts of me that were white. I wasn’t a good communicator. I decided I needed to work harder at that.
Communication is something all of us need to work on. When I would start to say my opinion someone would jump in so I would just sit back and wait for someone to ask my opinion. We will ask our children the question and then give them the answer that we wanted to hear from them. They won’t talk to us because they think we don’t care about what they have to say.
We train our children and each other to tune out on us. We go through life feeling lonely and empty like our opinions don’t answer. We have trained ourselves to not be good communicators.
Class member: I had an observation. Reds kind of get the short end of the stick with being Christ-like.
I think Peter was red. I think if you had the quorum on the 12 take the test they would be red. They have learned the traits of the others. We can learn and through the Atonement we can learn. I think you would be hard pressed to find a true white. They have learned to be humble, have faith, and have a strong personality. Once Peter got that it is his right. He will defend it with heart and soul. They have a journey to gain that faith.
Class member: Do you change colors? If I took the test now and take it again in 10 years will it be different.
I think if you took the test 10 years ago and took it now you would be different because the red is learning to be more sensitive.
Class member: Is it more a guideline to follow?
If you take a true blue that is critical, they fight that tendency for years. I am much better than I used to be, but I still catch myself and have to fix it. We may deal with our weaknesses but it may be an area of sensitivity. It may be a cross we bear. Through the Atonement and making weak things become strong we want to become a rainbow. I have become a lot more fun. I have worked hard to develop some yellow.
I think the test is a great tool and a key, but it’s not a doctrine.
Class member: Last year we each took it for ourselves. I am red/yellow. He is blue/white. This year we took it for each other and our answers were almost identical.
When you can accept that you are very different and that is the blessing you can work great together.
Class member: I think my daughter is white. She came to me with an issue she was having in school. I didn’t handle it well and she kind of shut down. She has had a hard year. Can you fix a white after you have broken them?
The key word is kindness. Don’t gush in praises to a white. They can’t handle that either. It’s soft and kind with a white. Eventually she will come around. Learning to ask questions to her about lots of things. If you have a white and they show a sign they want to share then stop and let them have those opportunities when they are in the mood. The other thing with whites you have to be careful not to let them go into a cave. They would prefer to be by themselves and disassociate. In order to teach them how to handle people you have to be there. You want them to have conversations and interact with people. They entertain themselves and are happy.
Class member: My white had something happen and she shut down this weekend. She is 10. I asked her questions about “How can I be a better Mom?” “Can you help me know what I can do different?”
Don’t ask that question to a red, but it’s a great question to ask a white.
Class member: I asked my children what I could do better. One said he wished I would go snowboarding. My yellow knew that would ruin his fun.
I think it’s wonderful if you are brave what you could do better as a parent. You need to ask them what you are doing well as a parent. You have to be careful when you give your children permission to criticize. Have them look at both sides. It’s a good experience for both of you.
Class member: Last night I had my older girls take the test…8, 10, 12. I knew what my oldest and younger one was. When we were done the oldest one said she was a yellow/red tie. My younger one is the brightest yellow you have ever met. She does cartwheels on her way to go everywhere. She said she was a white/yellow. My oldest one then said I’m not yellow. My middle one is white. I was proud of my younger one because she said we need to write down all our weaknesses and strengths. We need to focus on our weaknesses and make them strengths.
Class member: I took the challenge to have my husband take the test for me. I did kind of feel mad after. I have always thought I was yellow/blue mix. My husband pegged me as more red. I thought that was more interesting. People might not always know our reasons for doing things. He is blue/white. It was interesting to see how he sees me as more dominant and more power.
That doesn’t surprise me. You are the one that is usually disciplining children. You come across as very strong. Your intentions may be different.
Class member: We actually didn’t do the test yet. I was looking at my kids. My son was very, very blue until his 8th grade year and now he is so white. I’m interested to see what he says on the test.
I have a son like that who was amazing, but then quit caring about grades. He got his Eagle the night before he was 18. He has created and run his own business. The drive came back, but he has to want it.
Class member: Don’t you think if you are that blue you don’t want people telling you what to do. If you feel like people are telling you what to do maybe he is pulling back.
You have to find a hot button to kick-start that drive.
Class member: I have a question about whites. My son is 26, but for white it says they need help expressing their feelings and needs. Would you make that a daily or weekly thing? At some point the whites keep it all in.
With whites you cannot demand anything. You have to be very kind. The white is the easiest to break. They are more fragile. They keep all their feelings and emotions in. They have them very strong. They keep their feelings inside until they feel like it’s very safe. They will never be the ones that come to you. You make it safe for a white by asking questions and not giving lectures at the same time. When you ask a question and they get the courage to give you the answer don’t tell them they are wrong. Teaching with a white is always more effective if you do it through questions where the answer is what you would lecture them. If you come down hard on a white you will break them. They will say I don’t care and quit.
Class member: There were parts of me that were white. I wasn’t a good communicator. I decided I needed to work harder at that.
Communication is something all of us need to work on. When I would start to say my opinion someone would jump in so I would just sit back and wait for someone to ask my opinion. We will ask our children the question and then give them the answer that we wanted to hear from them. They won’t talk to us because they think we don’t care about what they have to say.
We train our children and each other to tune out on us. We go through life feeling lonely and empty like our opinions don’t answer. We have trained ourselves to not be good communicators.
Class member: I had an observation. Reds kind of get the short end of the stick with being Christ-like.
I think Peter was red. I think if you had the quorum on the 12 take the test they would be red. They have learned the traits of the others. We can learn and through the Atonement we can learn. I think you would be hard pressed to find a true white. They have learned to be humble, have faith, and have a strong personality. Once Peter got that it is his right. He will defend it with heart and soul. They have a journey to gain that faith.
Class member: Do you change colors? If I took the test now and take it again in 10 years will it be different.
I think if you took the test 10 years ago and took it now you would be different because the red is learning to be more sensitive.
Class member: Is it more a guideline to follow?
If you take a true blue that is critical, they fight that tendency for years. I am much better than I used to be, but I still catch myself and have to fix it. We may deal with our weaknesses but it may be an area of sensitivity. It may be a cross we bear. Through the Atonement and making weak things become strong we want to become a rainbow. I have become a lot more fun. I have worked hard to develop some yellow.
I think the test is a great tool and a key, but it’s not a doctrine.
Class member: Last year we each took it for ourselves. I am red/yellow. He is blue/white. This year we took it for each other and our answers were almost identical.
When you can accept that you are very different and that is the blessing you can work great together.
Class member: I think my daughter is white. She came to me with an issue she was having in school. I didn’t handle it well and she kind of shut down. She has had a hard year. Can you fix a white after you have broken them?
The key word is kindness. Don’t gush in praises to a white. They can’t handle that either. It’s soft and kind with a white. Eventually she will come around. Learning to ask questions to her about lots of things. If you have a white and they show a sign they want to share then stop and let them have those opportunities when they are in the mood. The other thing with whites you have to be careful not to let them go into a cave. They would prefer to be by themselves and disassociate. In order to teach them how to handle people you have to be there. You want them to have conversations and interact with people. They entertain themselves and are happy.
Class member: My white had something happen and she shut down this weekend. She is 10. I asked her questions about “How can I be a better Mom?” “Can you help me know what I can do different?”
Don’t ask that question to a red, but it’s a great question to ask a white.
Class member: I asked my children what I could do better. One said he wished I would go snowboarding. My yellow knew that would ruin his fun.
I think it’s wonderful if you are brave what you could do better as a parent. You need to ask them what you are doing well as a parent. You have to be careful when you give your children permission to criticize. Have them look at both sides. It’s a good experience for both of you.
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