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Follow up:  Communication

3/16/2017

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​3-14-17  Follow up: Communication
 
Class member:  I read “Lord is it I?”  That was from the Priesthood session.  It was good to read and study that and recognize it in myself.  I think it’s taking responsibility for yourself.
 
Do you remember President Benson’s talk on Pride?  It’s the universal sin we see in others, but not ourselves. 
 
Class member:  It reminds me that I call the kids the wrong names.  I say, “You are supposed to listen to what I mean not what I say.”  That’s what we expect.
 
Class member:  I was listening to a devotional and it was all about “Lord Is It I?”.  IT’s the law of witnesses. 
 
Class member:  I did the one that was on the blog…“Marriage Miracle”.   The direction is to change a criticism to a compliment.  I need to do that with my husband, but I really need to do it with my children too.  It’s going to be hard to remember to stop and turn. 
 
So many of the things don’t matter, does it matter if the stroller is put down or up right now?  Does it really matter? 
 
Class member:  I am a fill in the blank interrupter.  My 5 yr old will say you interrupted me again.  So this week my goal was to ask questions instead of filling in the blank.  The assignment was to ask 3 questions, but I got to 1 or maybe 2.  That has come to my center stage right now for me.  I am a really bad communicator and it’s all my husband’s fault and my kid’s fault.  
 
If that’s the only thing you take out of this 10 weeks that would be awesome.  It would affect your relationships forever.  This is a hard habit to develop.  It’s a habit and once you get it it’s a habit.
 
Class member:  My hubby and I have been listening to the CD’s by John Lund “For All Eternity”.  He talks about content communication.  He says mean what you say and say what you mean.  It has nothing to do with your body language and your tone of voice.  Most times we only base answer on the body language.  The body language says one thing and her words say something else.  You have to base it on the words. 
 
Class member:  I missed last week, but I have been sharing everything with my husband when I come home.  He bought something called “Table Topics”.  They pick out a topic and we discuss it.  You think you know what your children are thinking, but it always surprises me.  Example: “What do you think your parents are good at?” 
 
What ever their answer is you have to be safe. 
 
When you solicit your husband’s help for the day you tell them that you need their help for 2 hours and then you let them have the rest of the day to themselves and stick to it.  Men need a start and a finish, or one thing/one job.  They will help in that way.  If you leave it wide open they think you are going to keep them all day.
 
Class member:  My husband and I communicate very differently.  My husband would think I should stop right now and do what I asked.  He told me to say, “Some time today, would you….”.  He always gets it done. 
 
We need to check and see what they are hearing from what I’m saying.
 
Class member:  If you have a problem that you need to talk to your spouse about, ask if there is 10 minutes that we can talk.  Then they can prepare themselves.  I don’t remember that very often. 
 
Another thing on that CD with Dr. Lund, men are fixers and sometimes we don’t want things fixed we just need them to listen.  So my wife has gotten to the point where she will just say, “I just need you to listen”.  Sometimes you need say, “I need help fixing this.”  It’s part of saying what we want. 
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Andrea
3/16/2017 10:10:34 pm

Someone from the Nampa class sent me this link. It fits really well with Communication. It's not about the nail
https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg

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