Carleen Tanner's Positive Parenting
  • Home
  • Parenting
    • Parenting Notes (Blog)
    • Spring Semester Class List
    • Fall Semester Class List
    • Ask a Parenting Question
    • Babysitting Information
  • Marriage
    • Ask a Marriage Question
  • Traditions
    • Daily Traditions
    • Weekly Traditions
    • Monthly Traditions
    • Yearly Traditions >
      • Anniversaries
      • School
      • Birthdays
      • Holidays >
        • April Fool's Day
        • Christmas
        • Christmas Eve
        • Easter
        • Fourth of July
        • Halloween
        • Mother's Day
        • New Years Eve
        • St. Patrick's Day
        • Thanksgiving
        • Valentine's Day
      • Fall
      • Summer
      • Traveling/Vacation
      • Winter
    • Once-In-A-Lifetime
    • General Conference
  • Testimonials
  • Store
  • Speaking

Follow up:  Parenting with Boldness

1/24/2017

0 Comments

 
​What did you notice this week?
 
Class member: I noticed my kids were great.
 
Class member:  My 3rd is a 6 yr old son and he is very good, but very quiet.  I think with the mix of my children he gets ignored.  I have tried to do more single dates with my kids.  We went to lunch.  He gets really emotional and starts crying really fast.  He came in and said he was really trying to not be mean to the kids.  He realized that I care about his feelings.  He didn’t get pushed aside. 
 
Class member: I was trying to take more opportunities to bring Jesus & the scriptures into getting along.  They were both in time out.  Jesus said “He who is without sin cast the first stone.” 
 
Class member:  I recognized after class that I was teaching them it was ok to teach them that it was ok for them to make a choice to sin.  I realized that I put them in situations that were not positive.  The Spirit told me I was amazing, but I could be better if I changed this one little thing.
 
Class member:  It was recognizing the times I felt the Spirit.  I felt like what am I doing wrong why do I not feel the Spirit.  I had a sick child and an injured child.  I thought I better pick up my kids from school today and the bus was late that day and they would have missed their music lessons.  That would have really stressed me.  It’s been good to stop and recognize the small things that the Spirit has answered me and been with me.  I had a hard week, but several times I did feel the Spirit guiding me.  I wrote it in my journal so I could remember. 
 
Especially those little things…it’s like Heavenly Father is putting his arms around you and helping you in the little things. 
 
Class member:  I felt like I could see His hand in my life so much more.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses, but we have always tried to recognize the gifts we are given. My daughter had several days that have been really rough.  I prayed if he would prompt me then I would do whatever he asked.  The Spirit said to stop and give her one more kiss on the head and tell her that I love her.  She settled down and went to sleep.  He is aware of us and knows what we need.  He is the perfect parent.  Do I pause and act like Him as a parent to my kids. 
 
Class member:  I have a really oppositional kid.  He cannot be agreeable.  I don’t know how to get him to agree.  We had another disagreement and the Spirit said just give him a hug.  I thought I don’t want to hug this kid.  I said have you given me a 5 minute hug today?  He melted in my arms.  The next day he asked me where is my 5 minute hug.  Everyday since he has asked for that.  That was not my doing.  I am so grateful for the Spirit. 
 
I had a child like that who disagreed to disagree.  I asked her if she disagreed with everything I said.  She told me that she thought if I agreed with you I would lose my own identity and became like you.  Rather than push moments to make them agree, we need to allow them to be independently.  Allow him to be him and not to be you. 
 
To use the Atonement we stop, turn, and act on what the Spirit has told us. 
 
Class member:  I have 3 kids and we moved and I drive them to school everyday.  We have been listening to talks and scriptures in the car on the way.  It sets the tone for the day.  I drop them off and watch them go.  My youngest got half way there and turned back.  She came all the way back and blew me a kiss.  Heavenly Father must feel the same way when we acknowledge our love for him.  If we can feel that way about our Heavenly Father how much more are we going to feel his love back.
 
What did you learn or internalize or commit to last week?
 
Class member:  I learned that I need to read the Ensign (Conference issue) with new eyes.  As we re-read those 2 talks and with intent and we were amazed.  Heavenly Father really does know what we need now.
 
Class member:  I learned that I kind of had a ‘nagging’ I took it as a prompting.  I paid attention to what I hadn’t done.  We bought this shelf for my daughter and it doesn’t have any hangers on the back.  I thought we need to hang that shelf.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a prompting for a spiritual thing or not.  The prompting didn’t have to be about spiritual things. 
 
We want to translate and interpret them before we follow the promptings.  The Spirit prompts us temporally and spiritually  The Spirit will prompt, but he won’t compel or yell. 
 
Class member:  On the way to class last week I said I need to ask Sister Tanner a question, but then I pushed it off.  Last Tuesday was the month mark of my brother losing his son that was 3 weeks old.  I thought I should ask Sister Tanner what people did for her.  Did you have things that people appreciated when you lost your baby? 
 
The things that mattered most were the things were people celebrated her life with me. Where they would come and say I remember her smile.  She was 4 months old.  They would say I remember holding her in church.  That was more lifting to me to celebrate her life then to mourn her passing.  For someone to say ‘what a blessing she was…’ that blesses me.  


0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Carleen Tanner

    Notes from classes and other information will be posted here.  Also you can order syllabus and CDs from the store or check out the "Traditions" that class members have shared.  You can also ask a Parenting and/or Marriage Question.

    Archives

    September 2019
    July 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    May 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    July 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    May 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    June 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013

    Andrea Hansen

    I will be posting my class notes from Thursday Parenting Class within a few days after class.

    Categories

    All
    Adversity
    Agency
    Apologies
    Atonement
    Attitude
    Babies
    Blended Families
    Bolton Institute
    Budget
    Cd
    Cell Phones
    Church Attendance
    Coach
    Color
    Color Code
    Communication
    Competition
    Consequences
    Contention
    Cooperation
    Dating
    Depression
    Differences
    Discipline
    Discouragement
    Doctrine
    Encouragement
    Entitlement
    Family
    Family Home Evening
    Fathers
    FHE
    Filter
    For Strength Of Youth
    General Conference
    Goal
    Gratitude
    Holiday
    Holy Ghost
    Holy Ghost
    Humility
    Information
    Internet
    Love
    Love Language
    Marriage
    Media
    Money
    Morality
    Mothers
    Order
    Organization
    Parenting
    Personal Revelation
    Plan Of Salvation
    Ponder Pad
    Pornography
    Power Struggles
    Praise
    Prayer
    Prayers
    Pride
    Reading
    Referee
    Reminders
    Reverence
    Sabbath Day
    Scouts
    Scriptures
    Scripture Study
    Self Esteem
    Service
    Spirit
    Stress
    Summer
    Survey
    Teaching
    Technology
    Temple
    Thanksgiving
    Thoughts
    Traditions
    Trials
    Valiant
    Values
    Violence
    Website Links
    Women
    Work
    Young Women
    YouTube

    RSS Feed

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.