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Follow up: Praise & Encouragement

11/1/2016

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​Did you notice the things you said this week?
 
Class member:  Someone made the comment of ‘that’s the coolest thing ever!’  I just laughed.
 
Class member:  Words of affirmation is the bottom of my totem pole. Is this something that is applicable to me?
 
President Kimball says…I need to know if I hit the mark.  I don’t need the praise to fill my bucket.  You need to know that you hit the mark.  If it’s your love language you need it more to feel validated.  ALL of us need feedback in a way that we can say “That worked!  I was on target!”  As adults it’s critical for your self esteem, but needs to come from the inside out. 
 
Class member:  I learned that I have a lot of improving to do in this area.  I think I’m addicted to praise.  I think I was raised on praise.  I noticed over the past week he will come and he will say, “Mom, your so cute!”  I totally feed off it.  I taught him that he’s not articulating specifics.
 
This was a hard one for me to break old habits and create new ones.  First of all you have to be aware of it.  You have to be aware of what is coming in to you and if you can accept it. 
 
Someone came up to me after my talk on Sunday a brother came up and said, “That was the best talk I heard.  You speak just like a General Authority.”  It just didn’t go in. 
 
Class member:  Sunday I watched our bishop get up and say, “We just have the best Relief Society president.”  She was just sitting there shaking her head.  It didn’t buoy her up.  I tried to be more aware of this with my kids. 
 
It becomes a habit.  You can become addicted to it.  You start judging your value by that outside input. 
 
Most parents don’t get a real payday until after your children are married and have their first baby.  That’s when they finally appreciate how great you are.
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