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Follow up:  Work

11/26/2013

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Class member:  I have never given my kids a big chore list.  My 6yr old and 4yr old have never vacuumed.  I made little boxes they could check it off.  I had to teach them how to do it correctly, but they thought it was great and gave them a sense of accomplishment.  It’s something I will keep doing.

Do you know what the attitude is of 13 yr olds when you give them that list and they haven’t had to do it before. 

I remember on Saturdays and my kids would come to me and say why aren’t you working?

Class member:  I made a chart list for each one of us.  I made a job list of Mom & Dad too.  I need to remember to change it up. 

Class member:  I appreciated the comment of showing them a finished product first and show everything that was done.  The 2nd thing was work past comfort. They would say I want to take a break.  Once they did it they were proud and go to play. 

Class member:  I have a 3 yr old and 9 month old.  We learned how to work on the dairy growing up.  I found it interesting to find different jobs.  I thought about using my old tooth brush and having her clean the grout. 

About 2 or 3 start giving them jobs. 

Along with work music lessons are fabulous.  It’s great to have them do the practice and reach a point where they feel good about the song.  There was a little boy practicing at the piano.  Next to him was his baseball mitt.  A salesman knocked on the door.  The little boy looked up and said, “Is your Mother home?”  The boy looked down at his baseball mitt and said “What do you think?”

Class member:   I was teaching my older daughter to clean the toilet with a step by step.  My 3 year old was mad because she didn’t get to clean the toilet.  She only got to clean the mirrors. 

I remember going through this with my son.  We had a powder room/half bath.  This was his first day to do it by himself.  He cleaned it fabulously.  I went on about something else.  He was standing in front of the bathroom door.  He said no I don’t want anyone else in there to mess it up.

Class member:  I have a 10 yr old boy who hates to do anything unless he wants to do it.  I said a prayer before doing chores.  He didn’t argue.  She also said she set a time limit that we are done at this time.  We have to make sure we are doing all we can to bring the spirit into our home. 

Music is a fabulous tool to use…upbeat…for cleaning music.  That energy moves them forward.

Class member:  We did FHE last night on journal writing.  I was looking back in some of my notes I had written.  I read some quick memories that I had written down.  My son when he was 5 I wrote how cute it was that he wanted to use the dustpan to shovel the sidewalk.  If something funny happens when they are cleaning.  Write it down so you don’t lose it.

Class member:  Even though working with your kids might seem like such a bother.  In the end for the kids it becomes a happy memory for them.  I grew up on a farm.  There are 6 kids in our family.  There are 3 older ones and then 3 younger ones.  The memories of working with my Dad are working with him. 

The key is to work hard with them.  You don’t make them work hard, you do it with them so you are part of them memory.  When you teach them to work hard you teach them to play hard with them.  Both of them include you. 

Who can tell me the scriptures about the Lords work.  Moses 1:39  This is my work and my glory to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of men.  What does that mean? That means he is parenting us.  He is giving us covenants and commandments.  He is doing it with us.  He is giving us opportunities and experiences which we don’t always appreciate.  He is giving us opportunities that bring to pass eternal life.  We need to give our children experiences and experiences to grow.  Are the experiences we have in life fun and easy?  Just because they are hard does he take them away from us? 

Is there any similarity between the entitlement our children feel and what we feel and ask the Lord for ourselves?

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