All of our children are different. Even though they go through the same experiences in our home, they each see, feel and understand them differently. As parents, we need to see how each child individually feels. We need to come to understand the heart of each child. We need to stop and ponder on their individual personalities and what their language of love might be. Only when we look at them individually can we be taught by the Holy Ghost on how to reach each of their hearts to teach them. The color code is a wonderful tool to help us understand the differences in our children and in ourselves. Sometimes we error in thinking that our children see the world the same way we do. Sometimes we error in thinking that our spouse sees the world the same way we do. If they do not see things the way we do, we become focused on helping them see and do things our way. Really, we need to be trying to understand what they are seeing and how we can teach them from where they are. We will not be able to teach our children individually unless we can understand them individually. Too often we see them as "the children" instead of as individuals that make up our families.
Not only do each of us have our own core personality but we each have very personal special spiritual gifts that our Heavenly Father has given us. A strong self-esteem is based on knowing that Heavenly Father loves us so much that He would give us gifts, and then knowing what they are and how we can use them to serve Him and others. Watch for the notes on the next class as they will help you learn how to build strong self esteem in your children by helping them to discover their divinity.